Football Was Never The Same Back In The Day

It is that time of the year, schools are closed and all boys are back in the village, except for the ‘born Tao’, who would be breezing in later in December to terrorize the hapless village boys with sheng, and those fake English they pick in city streets). You will agree with me on a lighter note that the of polythene menace became more pronounced when boys started playing balls bought from supermarkets and not making their own or simply abandoned the game all together for computer gadgets and mobile phones.

Growing up, cane cutter and his gang had a way of keeping themselves away from bad activities; unless of cause bad activities also included stealing mangoes from Paskalia’s farm. Thus the ‘Juala’ (polythene) ball during holidays pitting my village boys against each other or my village against boys from the neighboring village would come in handy as we looked after the cows in the fields.

There is nothing more nostalgic like images of some pot bellied lads roaming the village with their dogs some called Kiyombi, Simba, Gadafi, Rhodesia and Sadam, hunting for birds which by with catapults, chasing after squirrels, bush hare or just kicking around some balls made from discarded clothes and polythene papers. After a long day around, we would be taking the cows back home while blowing our crookedly crafted hands while some are chewing sugar cane; that is if the gods’ were on our side and the cows never sneaked home before us to cause rampage in the sorghum farms.

Just like the 21st Fifa rules, we had our own albeit they were never written anywhere; still we mastered them. I hope after reading these rules, you would be laughing all the way to the bathroom.

As a preliminary: Every open space could be a playing fiel

ONE: The fat kid was always the goalkeeper.

TWO: The owner of the ball decides who plays.

It was always Otis owning the ball. Somehow my ball kept appearing from the ‘orepe’ fig tree behind our house. I came to learn later it was Otis who snitched them so that he kept dominating the village.

THREE: The owner of the ball plays on the side which doesn’t remove the shirts or t-shirts; it was a privilege to be on the side that put the shirts on.

A must: The owner of the ball captains both teams.

FOU: Penalties were awarded only if the injured player curses a lot. Talking of injuries, cuts were dealt with by a quick first aid of rubbing dust on the bleeding spot.

FIVE: If you were the goalkeeper, you could change the goal post from where the ball enters to the opposite side and claim no goal or remove all the sticks when the striker was approaching.

SIX: No matter how many goals you scored, the winner will be determined by the last team to score.

SEVEN: No referee and linesman, everyone is a referee; you could run with the ball even behind the goal post, then come back and score and the goal stood.

EIGHT There were no such things as corners, throw-ins, free kicks or off sides; the closer you are to opposite goalkeeper the easier it was to score.

NINE: If you don’t participate in repairing the ball you were given a match ban, so we were keen to be part of the repair team.

TEN:If you’re picked last you’re a loser. The guy who was never picked was to fetch the ball when it got stuck under the old tractor or trailer-and boy don’t we have so many of them in our village or under the tunnel or over ‘Shosh’ Paskalia’s fence, of course Paskalia had ready abuses to hurl over the fence.

ELEVEN: The guy who was  never picked was also to be the one looking after the cows lest they stray as we played, so he could play in the next match.

TWELVE: When the owner of the ball gets annoyed, game over. Otis had a short temper so we made sure he was always in a good mood, by bringing him boiled potatoes or making sure we passed the ball to him more often than the others in the same team.

THIRTEEN: The goal sticks did not have a cross bar. So long as the ball passed in between the two sticks, it was counted, never mind the height, it was a goal.

FOURTEEN: You were allowed to change the goalkeeper in case of a penalty. 

FIFTEEN: The match ended only when everyone was tired in normal circumstances or when we realized the cows are gone.

SIXTEEN: When the owner of the ball was called home, it would be the end because he leaves with the ball.

SEVENTEEN” The losing team especially from the other village is to be chased back across the river with dogs in pursuit.

Looking back, I cannot help but laugh over them.

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL, STAY SAFE. I LOVE YOU ALL

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The Stages of Man’s Financial Life

Life is not fair to anyone. What man amases from life is a product of his determination and resolve. This informs the chasm between the rich and the poor. Nobody is born rich or poor. What we give to life is what life throws at us. Specifically speaking, some individuals, especially at old age, do experience poverty. Why and how does this happen to them. In simple terms, the manner in which they handle all-important stages of their human existence immensely contributes to the excruciating financial conditions.

Human life contains three cardinal phases: early, middle and late. The early is the determining stage, which is called learning phase. This stage of life is the bedrock of man’s financial life. It is the stage characterized by freshness, vigour, acquisition of ideas and knowledge as well as skills. A stage when man goes to school to acquire knowledge and skills that enable him to be fit in the society where he lives in and respected among peers and mates. By virtue of the acquired experiences, man either secures a paid job or starts a personal business. In some cases, a combination of both is not impossible to be possessed by man.

Middle stage, otherwise known as earning phase is a juncture when man translates all the knowledge and prowess acquired in learning stage into pecuniary gains. This is usually made possible through salary or wage collection, known as renumeration, or profit making. The relationship between man and money is a decider of destiny in this regard. If money is wiser than man, a challenge emanates, but if man is wiser, financial security, financial freedom and financial stability will be guaranteed to the maximum. This is because a solid financial base must have been built through circumspect spending, meticulous strategic savings and investment portfolios.

The last stage is the yearning stage, which is in sharp contrast to the first one. It is the opposite of stage one, because it is featured with debilitating state, inactive and ineffective services rendered. This is a result of ‘wear and tear’ phenomenon. Retirement from active service takes place at this point. Man might be without any jobs. However, if man is jobless, it is an indicator that he has no investment portfolio whereas if he is business-inclined, he must have definitely appropriated business strategies and ideas acquired over the years. In order to ‘retire’ his retirement, he keeps the business going and money continues to work for him on this note. On the other hand, man who has no business investment portfolios might be confronted with poverty – stricken situations such as begging and dependence on others for survival. Embarrassment of old age may be inevitable. This can be avoided though.

The Hunted Girl

” Hey Mom ,Am home”Linda shouted as she dropped her heavy black bag on the cushion.
“Hey,Honey welcome home ,Sitting in the living room,Am bringing your meal “Linda’s mom replied “OK mom”.
She sat down on the chair beside her bag and grabbed the remote from the table.The living room was very wide and had all the luxurious equipment to make one have a comfort home.It had 5 seetee in it and three seats and there was a ceiling fan in the room to keep it cool.Each corner of the living room was decorated with ornaments and it had beautiful curtains.
“Mom!” Linda called again and when she got no reply she moved to the kitchen to check for her mom .But her Mom was already dead,she was lying in a puddle of blood right on the kitchen floor.
“Mom!!!” Linda screamed on top of her voice, ‘how did this happen? she replied me seconds ago’ Linda thought as she wept. She ran out of the house and went round the building to find if anyone came in to kill jer mum but she couldn’t find any clue or any one .
She ran back inside and then she called the police ,she quickly dialed the police Emergency code and reported the incident.Few minutes later ,two police men arrived with an ambulance.Linda’s mom was rushed to the hospital while the policemen settled down for interrogation.
Linda and her mom lived alone, Linda’s Dad divorced her mom when she was 10 years old,it was a really tough time for her and her mom.Linda was very heartbroken and her mum escaped the tough moment and they were living fine but now she’s dead.
The policemen finished the interrogation and inspected the crime scene with Linda.They took every piece of evidence they could find and left.
Some weeks later,they returned and gave Linda the report ,but everything the investigators found couldn’t lead to the muderer of Linda’s mom.They couldnt find any wound that shows she might have been hurt or shot ,which makes it look like she was gagged to death but the autopsy results did not give any genuine information about that .
Everything was just blank ,Linda kept on wondering,thinking about wat the investigators said until it was midnight.Linda suffers from a disease called ‘Insomnia’ which makes her sleepless atimes.So she took her phone and decided to watch some movies
Few minutes later a scream was heard from Linda’s room so her aunt who was brought to take care of her after the demise of her mom ran into Linda’s room due to the noise ‘what happened dear?’ She asked ,but Linda was already In shock ,she couldn’t ulter a word out of her mouth. Her aunt calmed her down ‘Now can u tell me what happened’ she asked Linda .
‘Since I couldn’t sleep then I took my phone and started watching some movies just so I won’t get bored ,I became scared and I also feeling the cold weather I dropped my phone and tried to force my self to sleep ,never knew wat came over me then I started reciting a particularly prayer mum taught me,suddenly I saw myself in the midst of two different groups of people ,the first one was putting on whites while the other group was on black,I became so scared that I started shivering then I suddenly looked for a way to escape ,guess what I saw? My aunt who died 3yrs ago telling me that everything would be alright ,I should not be scared ,she will save me from them,Then I looked at my left and saw the other group in black telling me to follow them so they can take me to my mom ,when I heard the word Mom,I felt like following them but suddenly My aunt shouted my name ‘Don’t go!!!’ She yelled ,I became so scared and confused on wat to do”

The Prominent keys To o Success

Success is not just an ordinary word, it is a powerful word that had awaken the intellectual sagacity of many people. Success had been what many people had been racing for, it is what many students are always aspiring to achieve at the end of every academic year, and it is what every business man always hope for, it is what many surgeons have in mind before going into the theatre to come out with a smile on their face after a successful surgery, it is what teachers awaits in their students, it is what parents expects in their children after many years of labor.
Nevertheless, with all these expectation and aspiration, success won’t be served to you on a golden plate you have to work for it. Money can be given to you, gifts can be given but you have to be hardworking before you could get hold of success. There is this common saying that “the journey to a thousand miles begin with a single step” so is success. Your journey to success began the time you never imagined, it began the time you were just a tiny cluster of cells to the time you developed to being a foetus to the time you were given birth to, to the time you started crawling to the time you stood up on your feet to the time you took your first step to the time you started running and falling but you keep on rising like a phoenix. Your journey to success started the day you got fertilized as an egg in your mother’s womb till where you are today. If you think you have not achieved anything so far then let me remind you that you have been fighting for your life right inside your mother’s womb because you could have died from the drugs she took, from the water she drank, from the food she ate but you fought for nine months as a mere foetus because your aim is to see a different world outside your mother’s womb. If you didn’t give up as a foetus why do you want to give up now?
“Don’t give up on your journey to success, your birth shows you are a step closer to achieving your goals if not you could have died right in the womb” – Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
Furthermore, let me ask you this, do you know what success is? Do you have what it takes to be successful? Do you know the pain of being called a failure? For you to achieve success you must stay FOCUS on your DREAM you must WORKHARD to make your dream come true you must be DETERMINED to your achieving your goals you must have the of not want to be called a FAILURE. I don’t know how you are going to go about it but you must WIN to become your own definition of success but remember, “There is no short cut to success” you have to take every single steps overcoming every obstacles, you have to fail and fail and keep on failing until you pass. For you to become successful you need the prominent keys to unlock closed doors as you set out on your journey to success. These keys will be discovered as you read further.

KEY #1 – DREAM
Many people believed that a dream is a succession of images, ideas, emotions and sensations that usually occur involuntarily in the mind during a certain stages of sleep. That’s not all about dream, dream is not something we just see in our dream when succeeding is attached to it.
“Dream is what stopped you from sleeping”
Your goal is something you dream of achieving and you won’t sleep until you reach your goal. So therefore, “dream is not what you see in sleep it is what stops you from sleeping.” To become successful in life you must set a goal and keep on dreaming until you achieved your goal.
“Never set limit to what you can achieve, you can achieve more than what you dreamt of, there shouldn’t be full stop on your journey to success just commas” – Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
And it is never too late to start dreaming. C.S Lewis said “you are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”. And “you have to start dreaming today so you could wake up tomorrow realizing your dream had become a reality”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel. Because “There is nothing worth celebrating than a dream becoming a reality – Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel. If you really want to live a successful life you need to start dreaming today and you keep following your dream. “What is not started today is never finished tomorrow”—Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe. Like I said earlier, “success is not a destination it is a journey”. “Set out on your journey to success leaving your trail behind not following other people’s path”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel. Dream and follow your dream and live for your dream alone not other people’s. “Do not follow where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail- Ralph Waldo Emerson. Dream is very important on your way to success, you have to “Dream as if you will live forever, live as if you will die today- James Dean. “Don’t just live in a dream world but dream and turn your dream to reality”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel. Because “there are some people who live in a dream world and then there are some who face reality; and there are those who turn one into another”- Douglas H. Everett. Have this in mind, don’t just dream alone. There is a little distance between dream and reality and that is ACTION. Dreaming without acting on your dream is just a mere child sleep.

KEY # 2- FOCUS
Focus is another prominent key to success. Dreaming alone won’t be lead through your journey to success. For your to achieve your aim, you need to have a clear goal and objectives and your hard work should be dedicated towards making your dream into a reality.
Being focused will make you quicker if your focus is on a single dream, you will be able to avoid distractions, your brain becomes focused on making your dream become reality. This would give you the opportunity to achieve your goal much quickly rather than trying to make two dreams come true at a time.
Furthermore, to achieve your more difficult long term goals, you need to be disciplined to stay the course. When you set huge goals, it might appear difficult for you to achieve but all you need to do in such situation is to break big goals into smaller, more attainable goals so you could make more progress towards your dream.
“Stay focused, go after your dream and keep moving towards your goals”- LL Cool J.
If you were able to focus on a goal, this would increase your chances of achievement. When it comes to making achievement in your business or personal life, you must be persistent in making it become a reality.
“Our focus is our future and what we focus on will multiply in our life”- David DeNotaris.
Many people ended up in life as failure because they tend to focus on what could go wrong rather than what could go right. This is the reason many had not taken a single step towards success. Don’t waste all your energy on all the bad situations rather use 100% of your focus in creating a desirable outcome; your future depends on it.
“Focus on the possibilities for success not on the potential for failure” – Napoleon Hill.
Similarly to how your dream is important on your journey towards a successful life so is your focus. You need to start focusing on your strength not on your weakness, focus on your character not your reputation, and focus on your blessing not your misfortune. Focus on what could go right not what could go wrong, remember what you have done right not what you have done wrong. The road to success isn’t smooth, there are a lot of obstacles and challenges before you of which you might not overcome but don’t give up on winning all you need to do is take a deep breath and shift your focus to something positive. Your focus is what gives you positive energy on your journey to success. You have to avoid all distraction that comes your way to avoid derailment. To become successful is a herculean task, don’t start thinking about failing without trying that would only make you a loser. If at all you are going fail, fail after trying not failing before you try.
“Failing after trying and not giving up makes you a successful failure” – Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.

KEY # 3 DERTERMINATION
Determination as a positive emotional feeling which involves your perseverance towards a difficult goal in spite of obstacles. Your determination serves as your behavioral motivator that will help you to achieve your goal.
You might have a great dream or a 100% focus avoiding not to be distracted towards achieving your goal but your strong determination and will power to succeed matters a lot. People might call your success story a luck, there is no problem about that but one thing for sure is that luck only works for those who have the will power to win. Psychologist states that “determination is a positive emotion that pushes an individual towards action and result in important outcomes such as perseverance and determination takes success”. Staying determined to achieve your dreams will stop you from giving up despite obstacles and challenges. Being determined means to have a focus with a strong desire and actions to bring your dream into reality.
“It is your will power to win that determines your success”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
Sometimes ago, I read a tweet that says “it is not about winning that matters at times it is being part of the race” I laughed when I read the tweet, such post can be good as a good morning messages on social media but not in reality.
Joel Osteen said, “It takes determination to see a dream come to pass, the question is not will you start but will you finish”.
Everything you do, every step you take is all about making your dreams come true. Like I once said, “you shouldn’t follow where there is path you should go instead where there is no path and leave a trail” and if you couldn’t find a way then you make a way.
“Desire is the key to motivation but it is determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal- a commitment to excellence that will enable you to attain the success you seek”- Mario Andretti.
Don’t forget I once said you shouldn’t limit yourself to what you can achieve, you can achieve more than what you could imagine if you have the determination of succeeding all you need to do is to take a step then you keep on going.
“A great man can be as great as he wants to be, if you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done”- Vince Lombardi.
If you are not determined you can’t be successful. The purpose of this life has always lies on determination, work and success. The reason many people fail is because they do not have the determination and perseverance, extra ordinary people are determined and that what makes them extra ordinary. Success cannot be served to you, it is you determination that will make you a successful person.
“You might fail and fail and keep on failing but you must be determined to succeed one day, don’t stop during your stormy days”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
Your determination will contribute greatly to your success journey. You won’t be able to overcome failure if you have zero determination to being successful. “Action and determination are two habits you must develop at the forefront of all success”- Machi Block.

KEY # 4- BELIEF
Believing in yourself is one of your greatest weapon to overcome any obstacles that might come your way on your journey to success even when all odds are against you or when your chances of winning are low, you have to learn how to believe in yourself because that’s what you need to achieve your goal.
“Believe in yourself even when nobody believes you, it is the belief you have in yourself that will make you succeed in life not the believe people have in you.”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
It is possible for you to succeed if no one believes you but you may not succeed if you do not believe in yourself. And if they believes you, that means they placed a great responsibility which is more like a challenge you must overcome by your own belief in wining. People believing you means they have the faith in you even though they know you are weak.
“When faith is entrusted in a weak man he derives strength in it”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
Dreaming is one that, believing your dreams can become a reality is another. Someone once said “dreams come true for those who believe in it” meaning if you believe in dreams coming true then your dream will definitely come to pass.
If you have a dream just believe in achieving it even when you can’t feel it deep in your heart any words of encouragement, just believe in your dream and your heart will finally show you the way. There is nothing you can achieve without you believing you can, Henry Marsh said “Our success is measured by personal belief not by anybody else’s standard or belief” and if you are the type that look down on yourself then Anita Folly was right when she said “Belief is the first step in the transformation process that will really make a difference in your life”. It is what you belief about yourself that other people will belief about you too. People will only see what you want them to see just like the gene magic in Aladdin’s movie. If you could believe in the myths and legendary story then why can’t you believe in your dreams?
“It is the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, thins begin to happen”- Mohammed Ali.
The journey to a thousand mile begin with a single step. Your journey to successful life has many steps for you to climb and one of those steps is you believing you can succeed in spite of all obstacles and challenges that comes your way.

KEY #5 -COURAGE
The road to success is not a smooth one, there are obstacles and challenges. For you to overcome all this, your courage which is your choice and willingness to confront agony, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation etc. is needed. To overcome the battle before you, you must process the physical and moral courage. Your physical courage will make you brave in the face of physical pain, hardship, death or death threat while your moral courage will give you the ability to act rightly in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal, discouragement or personal loss. These are the things you will face as your journey to success keeps going farther, it is the price you must be ready to pay and the only currency to pay for it is your courage. People want to see you succeed in life but not as better than them and they will always discourage you if you have a better plan than what they have. Your past will be brought up to torment you but you need to be courageous in times like this, you shouldn’t give up.
“Courage isn’t the strength to go on, it is going on when you don’t have the strength”- Napoleon Bonaparte.
During your journey to success, you shouldn’t waste your time living someone else’s life, don’t be trapped by dogma- which is living with the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your hear and intuition.
Courage is the most important of all virtues, because without your courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. When you feel like there is no other way for you to go, your courage is what makes you push harder, it tells you never to give up on your journey. Your courage is resistance to fear, if you have the courage it requires then you will keep matching forward toward achieving your goals. Many challenges will come your way but you shouldn’t run away from it, you have to face it and triumph over it.
“You shouldn’t be afraid of losing but you should be able to muster the courage to win”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.

KEY #6- MOTIVATION
Motivation will play also play a key role in achieving your goals. Whether you become successful in life or not, whether you reach your goal or not, whether your dreams turns to reality or remain just a dream. This is applicable to all regardless of status, profession or age.
“There is nothing you can achieve without the zeal to reach your goal”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
In every step you take, you must be motivated to go over to the next step. To be successful, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, and to get a little bit closer to your goals. If you really wish to be successful in life then you should know that success won’t come looking for you, you have to go out and get it. If you want success, you should be able to work harder because the harder you work the greater you feel when you achieve it.
If you are not motivated enough you will end up giving up on achieving your goal.
“Don’t wait for anyone or thing to motivate you, be your own motivation”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.

KEY #7- FEAR
Are you thinking if your fear make you become successful? Well I’m proud to inform you that your fear is going to play a key role on your journey to success if you can figure what your fear is and use it to your advantage.
The word FEAR actually has two meaning, the first one is Forget Everything And Run while the latter is Face Everything And Rise, and it’s now your call to define your fear. Many people sees their fear and run away from it and that is why they are unsuccessful today. Your fear shouldn’t be your weakness it should be your strength. There is no crime in having fear the crime is not overcoming the fear while you allow it to pin you down.
Many couldn’t take risk because they are scared of what will happen if everything goes wrong instead of thinking about what could go right. One of the 48 laws of power is knowing who your enemy is and knowing how to use them, same thing with identifying what your fear is and using it to your advantage. If you are scared of failing then you will end up as a failure. Do you know why? It is because you didn’t give it a try, you allowed your fear to hold you back, you failed before trying. You forgot that your success story is incomplete if you didn’t talk about your failure”- Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
The very first step to success is failure, if you succeed without failing or facing challenges that means you took the short cut to the top. The mistakes you make resulted to your failure and mistakes are very important to man because without mistakes there won’t be correction and without correction learning won’t take place. Instead of letting your fear hold you back, why not let it push you forward. If your fear is falling why not give it a try and see if you fall or stand firmly. If Bill Gate let his fear held him back his name wouldn’t have been in the world record today. If you keep allowing your fear to hold you back then you won’t be able to take a step making your dream a reality.
Furthermore, underneath your fear lies a great opportunities. Because when you start doing things that scares you the most, tearing down invisible barriers that separate you from the good life, you become the person you have always dreamt about in your mind. Overcoming your fear is a life changing decision. Fear will always be around you to tell you what you can’t do- it’s up to you to face your fears and tell yourself that you can.
“A man who wishes to be successful must find out what he can do not what he is scared he couldn’t do” – Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel.
Learning how to handle fear and overcoming it will help you have the life you dream of.

CONCLUSION
Becoming successful in life is not a matter of background, intelligence or native ability, it is not family and friends that made us do extraordinary things. Instead, the ability to bring out the best in ourselves under all circumstances. It is the ability to accept that life won’t be fair to us always and we will always see the other side of life.
Within you is the potential and ability that if properly put into good use, you will be able to accomplish extraordinary things with your life.
The prominent keys will enable you to;
Decide exactly what you want and where you want to go.
Set a deadline and make a plan to get there.
Take actions on your plan, take a step everyday towards achieving your goal.
Be persistence until you succeed that you will never ever give up.
These will help you in developing yourself and you will evolve and grow to become an extraordinary person.
And don’t forget success is not a destination, success is a journey and there is no full stops in success just commas.

Becoming Confident

It happens severally that walking through a new environment, I suddenly lose my legs temporarily, I just wouldn’t know how exactly to walk especially when there is a cluster of unfamiliar faces probably just having fun or discussing a serious issue as it concerns them. It often seems as if all eyes are on me and no one could help me out of this difficult zone! I know I’m not alone on this and many have wondered if they can ever get themselves to be confident among people, especially strangers. Well, you don’t need to be shy anymore if you could just follow these simple steps to be shared below.

What exactly is shyness? I’m not going to bore you with too much talk but go straight to the point. To be shy is to be in an awkward, unpleasant, uncomfortable situation or among unfamiliar faces that one can’t behave normal. It has been reported that shyness is a sign of people with low self-esteem. It is also said that fear of what people may think or say caused by ego is also a major characteristic of shyness. How then can we improve our social relations and stop being shy?

1.) Act Confidently

One major rule when in public space is don’t behave like a coward. Don’t let people see you as an adult with baby’s feeder in your mouth. Be confident in your actions! Understand that no one can do things the way you do, you have the Midas touch.

2.) Get Involved

Be involved in what’s going on. Don’t just stand unconcerned. If someone needs help, offer to help. If an issue needs to be settled probably a quarrel between two individuals, offer your assistance in settling the quarrel. Engage!

3.) Discuss

The more you talk, the more you get better and confident at talking. No man brought it all from up there, it is developed and nurtured. What you don’t nurture, gets to die eventually. Start practicing the art of talking to people more. Talk to your family more, talk to your friends some more, then go further by learning to pick up a conversation with a stranger. Perhaps you are scared of what to say, you can start by asking questions. Don’t just stand there, looking, talk! If asking questions, please make it open ended, that way you give room for the person to express himself/herself more than just giving a yes or no answer and also it gives you time to think and come up with an appropriate point of discussion.

4.) Let go of Past Failures

Shy people tend to hide more because of past failures. Something they did and didn’t work out according to plan, especially when the expectation from people was already high and yet they failed to meet up. The feeling of disappointment, failure, rejection, and frustration pushes them to run inside and refuse to ever come out. Failure has never been the fault of any man, it is only an event that has to occur so as to show how better you could handle same thing and achieve the best result. Never hold on to your failures, everyone fails at some point, you won’t be the first, neither will you be the last. You are not a failure, cheer up and go out on a date, picnic or something, enjoy yourself, discover and explore the world!

5.) Appreciate Yourself at Every Opportunity

Little drops of water they say makes a mighty ocean. You may not have gotten there yet but each step is taking you closer to your goals. Therefore take time out to appreciate yourself. You are making progress, it may not be as fast but you are not on the same spot, be happy!

6.) Watch Others Relate with Confidence

Although there may be circumstances where imitation could be harmful but not in every case I believe. If you are finding it hard to confidently relate with people, then watch how others do it effortlessly and try imitate them. Watch their actions, their tone when speaking, their eyes, and all other stuffs that help them be confident in approaching others publicly. If they can do it, you can do it too.

7.) Dress Smart

It is often said that the way you are dressed is the way you will be addressed! Well, whatever issues you may have with that statement, the truth is there is a level of confidence that dressing smart gives. You can’t dress shabby and still expect to exude out the kind of confidence you need in public, not possible. Learn to dress smart!

8.) Believe in Yourself

No one can believe in you if as a matter of necessity you didn’t first believe in yourself. When you doubt yourself, your abilities, you make it hard for others to believe in you. Shyness like said earlier is one of the signs of low self-esteem. To overcome this,trust and believe in yourself more than anyone else. Don’t let the opinion of others be more important than your own opinion about yourself. Take you more seriously!

9.) Smile More

Going out with a hard face, as if your bread was taken from you obviously sends potential friends and helpers far away from you! There is no normal human being who has a resistance to smile! It is the most easy gift among men to give and yet the scarcely given gift. The gift of a smile could lighten up someone’s day and also your own day. Smile daily, smile every hour, smile every minute, smile every seconds. Just don’t stop smiling!

10.) Meet New People More Often
As difficult as that sounds to a shy person, it is a very effective means of improving your communication. The more you meet strangers/new people, the more you become less shy. Challenge yourself to meet at least a new person each day for the next 30 days and see how greatly you’ll have reduced your shyness.

Now, next time you are in the public, don’t feel awkward, the same way you relate with your family members is how you should relate with strangers. They are no different, they are all men. You can’t keep losing important appointments, business deals or contracts all because of shyness.

Save Them

They gaze at the stars
Heart quavering, beating like drum beats
Stream of tears pouring on the pale land
Memories full of dreams
Cut off, aborted
O! Save them
They have a tune to dance to

Dwelling in Poverty’s compound
Clad in tattered rags
Undetected sickness breakthrough
Waiting for neighbour’s
So as to welcome a square meal
In the middle of the day
To feed the rumbling stomachs

Difference in language is a barrier
Lack of communication arises
No higher place to go without the key
Education the key to any door

Gathered on the field
Laying down their dreams
Reflecting on their innocent eye balls
Trapped in darkness of doubt
But never lose hope
All shall never remain the same
There’s a reason their life started like this

Help the living dead build their hope
And make your promises come true
Education you promised
Where’s it?
Has it vanished to an unknown land?
Or has it been fed on by your greedy blood?

The innocent children are dying
Save them!
Security you promised
Not fulfilled, while fresh pepper is planted
On the pale land
SAVE THEM!
SAVE THE PEOPLE!
SAVE THEIR DREAM!!

My Mouth Not Always My Friend

When strength lies in quietness
My mouth refuses to rest but catches
My strength to rend
With fretful words, it takes away my gentleness
When fools in silence are counted wise

My mouth through myriads of
Words, bring me lower than a fool
Crushing me with weighty constructions
It stands atop me like a bull
When my life craves its blessing
And would have loved my mouth to pray

My mouth refuses bit chooses my
Blessings to fray
Through murmuring and complain I watch
Lifes goodness running far, far away
My mouth you are the traitor, I therefore
Will strive to quiet you.

May The World Sail Again


In a world once peaceful
Now overtaken by oppression
A world without rule
Where deceit reign and
Might is right

A world of hunger and suffering
Of treachery and horror
A world of adultery and infidelity
Of gambling and perdition
A world of vanity

Of loneliness cold and harsh
A world that never smile
Of sinister laugh, grief and despair
A world that invites but is never at home.
Of plenty but scarcely offers


A world without priorities
When man strive to become beast
A world where life has no value
But death is hated yet revered
A world that your are the nucleus

Give us a new world
With love filled with happiness
Reassuring real for me, for me
For today, for posterity
A world yet only you can put
The wind
Back to its sail

THE MIRAGE OF TIME

They say time entails 3 elements – the past, the present and the future. But does the present really exists?

The present is like any other mirage known to man. The present is that pool of water found in the middle of the road on a wicked sunny day. Just a façade.

When we look at an object, it takes the brain a few nanoseconds to translate to us what the object is. Likewise, when a friend is talking to us it takes the brain the same nanoseconds to process the sound and relate to us the meaning.

These examples indicate the fact that the brain, though super-fast, takes time to process what the eyes have seen before giving us the information held within. Knowing fully well that time passes before the brain finishes its processing, it is suitable to say that the present only exists before the processing, and by the time of recognition, time already called it “past”.

The present is one nanosecond, which is very negligible. It is just like the thin line between the sea and the sand of the beach, an illusion. Time only has 2 elements, The Past and The Future. The present is insignificant and a fallacy.

As humans, we’ve been told that all we have to do is learn from the past and act towards the future. But when and how do we learn from the past before we act in the future?

Drop a comment to share your views.

Searching For A Business Mentor

A mentor plays an important role in the success story of every individual on earth. In today’s world, a mentor is being described as a person with a high level of business qualities, and an expert who oversees, trains, and guides young or entrepreneurs from the conception of their business ideas and growth. Your chances of success in life and business can be amplified by having the right mentor
This article proposes a conceptual model for mentors and discusses a few resources on how to find mentors and reasons why entrepreneurs need mentoring support by the type of business, decision-making style, and phase at which they are at that moment.
Mentoring is quite different from other related forms of discrete supports such as teaching and coaching, the mentor puts the young entrepreneur’s interests as a complete priority and has to understand that his main role is to be dependable, engaged, and tuned into the needs of the entrepreneur.
Here are a few resources to get you started on the path to finding a mentor:
ACE MENTOR PROGRAM: engages, excites, and enlightens high school students to pursue careers in the construction and engineering industries through mentoring and support.
SCORE MENTORING: fosters vibrant small business owners and entrepreneurs through mentoring and education SC0RE has helped over 11 million entrepreneurs since 1964.
IS HAVING A MENTOR RECOMENDED IN THE BUSINESS WORLD?
Sadly, not every entrepreneur realizes the potential benefits of having a mentor in his life. They believe that they can succeed without mentors and while it is indeed possible in the business world without relying on a mentor, it is unnecessarily complicated as he will have to endure the consequences of his failure alone which poses a high level of negative impact on his productivity.
Life without a mentor is much harder work. A mentor has been where you are, has seen the struggles you face, and most importantly, they have survived and thrived. Yet a woeful number of entrepreneurs start their business careers without one.
While arguments abound on why entrepreneurs do not need mentors but should only follow their instincts, most successful business moguls had mentors. For example, the late Apple founder Steve Jobs served as a mentor to Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg. The late Bill Campbell, the silicon valley coach mentored Steve jobs and Larry page.
Here are 5 reasons why having a mentor is important.
1.MENTOSHIP INCREASES BUSINESS SUCCESS RATE.
Research and surveys have proven beyond doubt that having a mentor is important to success. The valuable connections, timely advice, occasional checks together with spiritual and moral guidance provided by a mentor will leapfrog you into success
MENTORS SHINE A MIRROR ON YOU
The worst person to see your faults is you. When you run your business this is deeply perilous. Your staff can’t tell you what’s wrong with you so you need a great mentor who is aligned with your best interests and guides your future development.
A MENTOR GIVES REASSURANCE
It has been proven by numerous research that a quality mentor-ship has powerful positive effects on young entrepreneurs. Having someone who practically guides and share your worries with you, someone who often placates your fears with their years of experience and gives you a high level of reassurance that you will be successful.
MENTORS OFFER ENCOURAGEMENT AND GUIDANCE
Anxiety, fear, and sadness erupted by a failed business cause setbacks on an entrepreneur’s productivity. Therefore every mentor must offer encouragement and guidance to young entrepreneurs during hard times.
NETWORK OPPORTUNITIES
A successful mentor has an unlimited network of people who can benefit young entrepreneurs to live. Since they have invested in your ideas and careers, it only makes sense for them to let you tap into their network of people when the need arises since their main aim is to complement and not to compete with you. This is an opportunity you cannot tap into if you do not have a mentor.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A MENTOR
Everyone needs a mentor. So what do we look for in a mentor?
As a young entrepreneur, securing a mentor for oneself might seem a little difficult and tasking, as not every business mogul has the characteristics of a good mentor.
I recommend that you choose someone with the right skills and experience. Experience is a very expensive asset yet it is crucial to business success. Choose a mentor who will help you to be the best you can be, a mentor who is not afraid of your success or threatened by them.

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