Tag: #Survival

  • Broken

    Broken

    Sit down and read me like a book
    Don’t judge me just by my look
    Like every other human, I too
    need to be love more and more

    Friends do not draw near
    Dying without notice is all I fear
    Living with a broken heart
    Only adds pain to my body parts

    Acting like I’m all strong
    Perhaps that’s where I have gone wrong
    I needed someone to lean on
    But it seems I only have me, myself and I

    I believe things will get better
    But will things ever get better?

    I look inside the mirror, I hate what I see
    All the lies hidden behind my mask
    when I pull it off my face

    I hope things will be fine
    I’m tired of this life of mine
    I wish for great things to happen
    But in the end will I ever by happy?

  • STUCK

    It was another busy morning in the village of Ilujinle, children and women had their calabash with them as they journey along the path that led to the only stream in the village. Farmers had their hoes and cutlases with them as they set out to their various farms to prepare their land for the coming planting season. Emaka as usual had his bottle of locally brewed gin under his arm as he swore at the villagers.


    Deborah watched these scenes every morning, it’s always the same everyday she said to herself as she looked up at the beautiful morning sun then she wished that she refused to remain in the village when her aunt urged her to come with her to the city.
    “This whole place is a nightmare “, she remembered her aunt words.
    “You will get a good life in the city”, her aunt had promised
    “You might even get a rich man to marry you, you won’t have to worry about a thing”
    She had such high hopes for her life in the city but all her hopes were dashed.
    Six in the morning and the traffic was already near it’s climax. Cars were honking here and there and the city was already alive.
    It was another day and Deborah had to worry about meeting another man who would treat her as though she was nothing but a piece of object to be used and abused.
    She had just woken up from her two-hour sleep since she got back from the hotel where she met her last client.
    Luckily for her Chief Festus wasn’t the rough kind of man. She never gets pained that she had to offer herself to Chief Festus and he pays well too. Madam Ceci also knew that.
    The bang that came on her door next told her everything she needed to know. Madam Ceci was where for her own share of the loot Deborah brought home. It was as though everyone wanted a piece of her.
    “Debbie!”, she screamed her name so loud that even the dead could hear and turn in their graves.
    “No tell me say you still dey sleep”, she asked in Nigeria pidgin English.
    “I’m not asleep. I’m just trying to find a dress to wear”
    “Na soso big big grammar you dey always speak. Open this door before I break am down oo”
    “Calm down!”
    “Na me you dey tell say make I calm down. Na because say Chief Festus don like you na”
    Deborah opened the door and Madam Ceci forced her way through the door as though she was being chased by an army of hired assassin.
    Madam Ceci found a way to the nearest thing closest to a seat that she could find. She had such an obese figure that from banging on Deborah’s door to rushing into the room, she had to gasp for breath and find a place to quickly catch her breath.
    Deborah couldn’t help herself but chuckle at the sight of it.
    “Wetin dey make you laugh?” Madam Ceci asked as though she didn’t know.
    “Nothing” Deborah answered admist a stiffled laughter.
    Madam hissed, still trying to catch her breath
    “Where my money?”
    It was the audacity that irritated Deborah. Everyone felt that you owed them something. Money that you didn’t work for but still expected a share of it.
    Deborah went ahead to give her ‘her cut’
    “This thing small oo”
    “That’s what you get because I didn’t get enough from Chief this time around “
    “Na lie you dey lie”, madam Ceci protested but she knew she wasn’t getting more than that from her what she had already gotten.
    “Ten thousand naira is small for this jobless woman. She should be lucky I still give her that much” Deborah thought to herself as she slammed the door after her.
    She was fuming with anger and she secretly wanted to find someone vent all her worries on. A tear rushed to her eyes but she quickly pushed it back l. She didn’t know why she did that but she did it any way
    “Mama, going to Lagos will be the answers to our prayers”, she had told her mother when Aunty Bimbo had encouraged her to join her in Lagos.
    “You dont have to go to Lagos before you become successful”, Her mother had argued.
    “I doubt if anyone can make it in this village of ours”
    “I don’t think this is what your father would have wanted for you”
    “My father would have wanted me to be very successful and do what is lawfully needful to become successful”
    “I still don’t think you should go.”
    “Mama, please. I beg you. There is nothing that would make me happier than going to Lagos right now and besides once I start earning, I will take care of you “
    “It is not just about the money, Deborah”
    “What is it then?”, Deborah quizzed.
    “I don’t trust Bimbo. She has always had a way of finding illegitimate ways of making money. I can’t guarantee that she will let you make money in honest ways”
    “Mama, you just want me to stay here with you”
    She had left- without her mother’s knowledge. She snuck out if the house very early that morning to the park. Aunty Bimbo had given her the directions to her house in Lagos.
    Aunty Bimbo who she later knew to be called Madam B turned out to be the most despicable person she had ever met. It seemed to Deborah that Madam B had forgotten that they were related in any way and treated her in the most dehumanizing way possible. She made her sleep with more than ten men everyday. Starved her and locked her up for days if she dared protested.
    Eventually, Deborah accepted prostitution as a profession and a way of life. It wasn’t until Madam B died of a totally unknown cause that she started putting the pieces of her life together.
    She found Madam Ceci on one of her several escapedes around town. Madam Ceci wasn’t as evil as Madam B was. It was easier to be free with Madam Ceci than it was with Madam B. She planned to make more money and leave Madam Ceci’s brothel as soon as she made enough money. But five years down the line and she hasn’t made enough money. From paying rent to Madam Ceci to sending money to her ailing mother and her struggling siblings. The needs were just unending.
    “Come back home” Her mother had urged her once on phone.
    “I can’t. I am working”
    “What is that job you are doing?”
    “I’m working hard. Don’t bother yourself with the details, Mama.”
    Her mum was well aware that whatever job it was that her daughter was doing, she wasn’t going to like it so she never bothered to ask anymore.
    Deborah knew that despite the fact that she told herself that she was still in the business of prostitution because she needs more money, the real reason is that she can’t see herself doing something else. The only thing she knows how to do and the only job she knows how to feed herself with is this prostitution. Her only goal was to leave the shackles of brothel managers like Madam Ceci and become independent and do what she wants to do on her own terms.
    “I’m in this for life and I know it ” Deborah said to herself as she got herself ready for another day as a woman in the street.

  • My Fears, My Drive

    The reason I force myself to read, the reason I can’t stop improving, the reason I’m so bent on getting better, the reason I want to be rich is because of fear.

    I fear that in the future, I might end up being broke, I fear that I might end up as nothing, I fear that If I do not do the right things now, I might end up regretting it.

    Sometimes I remember the popular quote which says, “In old age, we will regret what we didn’t do more than those things we did.”

    My fears have been my big push for along time, I don’t know where these phobias are coming from but I have a lot of them. Do you know I have a fear of being mediocre? I hate it and I don’t want to be mediocre! Sometimes when I find myself knowing nothing about somethings, I cry inside and I go all the way out to learn.

    Instead of letting your fear cripple you, let it push you to be better! Let it be your driving force! I fear that I might be poor, that’s why I strive to become better and rich. I fear that I might be mediocre, that’s why I seek so much knowledge.




    Try it! Fail at it! Try it! Do it again! At least, you are trying to b better, you would have learned a thing or two. You will be better than a mediocre.

    More like, It’s better to fail at doing something than not doing it at all. What even does failure mean? Not doing anything or learning from a path that does not work?
    Trying things out and exploring your options?


    Sometimes, I feel like it’s because the world does not encourage people to try something and fail at it the first time, that’s why young people do not want to try anything at all, perhaps, if they don’t do anything worthwhile, they won’t be held responsible for failing.

    But today, I encourage you to become better, I encourage you to read that book, eat that food, save that cash, improve that skill set, learn that thing and fail. You’ll always be better than someone afraid to try.

  • Yours Not Mine

    Shadows, shadows All I see
    A combination of light and some little darkness

    Locked up, the passions of my heart
    Left out, the vision of my mind
    Hindered, the motions of my feet

    I breathe, but not alive
    I move, but not progressing
    I laugh, but not happy

    I wanna live my dreams
    The more I rise, the more I fall
    I live not my dreams, I live another’s

    Held down by traditions
    Pulled back by expectations
    Pressed down by customs

    Rising out of the ashes
    Today, I refuse to be pulled back
    Today, I refuse to be boxed up

    It’s yours not mine
    The dreams I’ve been living
    No more, now mine I live

  • The Stages of Man’s Financial Life

    The Stages of Man’s Financial Life

    Life is not fair to anyone. What man amases from life is a product of his determination and resolve. This informs the chasm between the rich and the poor. Nobody is born rich or poor. What we give to life is what life throws at us. Specifically speaking, some individuals, especially at old age, do experience poverty. Why and how does this happen to them. In simple terms, the manner in which they handle all-important stages of their human existence immensely contributes to the excruciating financial conditions.

    Human life contains three cardinal phases: early, middle and late. The early is the determining stage, which is called learning phase. This stage of life is the bedrock of man’s financial life. It is the stage characterized by freshness, vigour, acquisition of ideas and knowledge as well as skills. A stage when man goes to school to acquire knowledge and skills that enable him to be fit in the society where he lives in and respected among peers and mates. By virtue of the acquired experiences, man either secures a paid job or starts a personal business. In some cases, a combination of both is not impossible to be possessed by man.

    Middle stage, otherwise known as earning phase is a juncture when man translates all the knowledge and prowess acquired in learning stage into pecuniary gains. This is usually made possible through salary or wage collection, known as renumeration, or profit making. The relationship between man and money is a decider of destiny in this regard. If money is wiser than man, a challenge emanates, but if man is wiser, financial security, financial freedom and financial stability will be guaranteed to the maximum. This is because a solid financial base must have been built through circumspect spending, meticulous strategic savings and investment portfolios.

    The last stage is the yearning stage, which is in sharp contrast to the first one. It is the opposite of stage one, because it is featured with debilitating state, inactive and ineffective services rendered. This is a result of ‘wear and tear’ phenomenon. Retirement from active service takes place at this point. Man might be without any jobs. However, if man is jobless, it is an indicator that he has no investment portfolio whereas if he is business-inclined, he must have definitely appropriated business strategies and ideas acquired over the years. In order to ‘retire’ his retirement, he keeps the business going and money continues to work for him on this note. On the other hand, man who has no business investment portfolios might be confronted with poverty – stricken situations such as begging and dependence on others for survival. Embarrassment of old age may be inevitable. This can be avoided though.

  • Becoming Confident

    It happens severally that walking through a new environment, I suddenly lose my legs temporarily, I just wouldn’t know how exactly to walk especially when there is a cluster of unfamiliar faces probably just having fun or discussing a serious issue as it concerns them. It often seems as if all eyes are on me and no one could help me out of this difficult zone! I know I’m not alone on this and many have wondered if they can ever get themselves to be confident among people, especially strangers. Well, you don’t need to be shy anymore if you could just follow these simple steps to be shared below.

    What exactly is shyness? I’m not going to bore you with too much talk but go straight to the point. To be shy is to be in an awkward, unpleasant, uncomfortable situation or among unfamiliar faces that one can’t behave normal. It has been reported that shyness is a sign of people with low self-esteem. It is also said that fear of what people may think or say caused by ego is also a major characteristic of shyness. How then can we improve our social relations and stop being shy?

    1.) Act Confidently

    One major rule when in public space is don’t behave like a coward. Don’t let people see you as an adult with baby’s feeder in your mouth. Be confident in your actions! Understand that no one can do things the way you do, you have the Midas touch.

    2.) Get Involved

    Be involved in what’s going on. Don’t just stand unconcerned. If someone needs help, offer to help. If an issue needs to be settled probably a quarrel between two individuals, offer your assistance in settling the quarrel. Engage!

    3.) Discuss

    The more you talk, the more you get better and confident at talking. No man brought it all from up there, it is developed and nurtured. What you don’t nurture, gets to die eventually. Start practicing the art of talking to people more. Talk to your family more, talk to your friends some more, then go further by learning to pick up a conversation with a stranger. Perhaps you are scared of what to say, you can start by asking questions. Don’t just stand there, looking, talk! If asking questions, please make it open ended, that way you give room for the person to express himself/herself more than just giving a yes or no answer and also it gives you time to think and come up with an appropriate point of discussion.

    4.) Let go of Past Failures

    Shy people tend to hide more because of past failures. Something they did and didn’t work out according to plan, especially when the expectation from people was already high and yet they failed to meet up. The feeling of disappointment, failure, rejection, and frustration pushes them to run inside and refuse to ever come out. Failure has never been the fault of any man, it is only an event that has to occur so as to show how better you could handle same thing and achieve the best result. Never hold on to your failures, everyone fails at some point, you won’t be the first, neither will you be the last. You are not a failure, cheer up and go out on a date, picnic or something, enjoy yourself, discover and explore the world!

    5.) Appreciate Yourself at Every Opportunity

    Little drops of water they say makes a mighty ocean. You may not have gotten there yet but each step is taking you closer to your goals. Therefore take time out to appreciate yourself. You are making progress, it may not be as fast but you are not on the same spot, be happy!

    6.) Watch Others Relate with Confidence

    Although there may be circumstances where imitation could be harmful but not in every case I believe. If you are finding it hard to confidently relate with people, then watch how others do it effortlessly and try imitate them. Watch their actions, their tone when speaking, their eyes, and all other stuffs that help them be confident in approaching others publicly. If they can do it, you can do it too.

    7.) Dress Smart

    It is often said that the way you are dressed is the way you will be addressed! Well, whatever issues you may have with that statement, the truth is there is a level of confidence that dressing smart gives. You can’t dress shabby and still expect to exude out the kind of confidence you need in public, not possible. Learn to dress smart!

    8.) Believe in Yourself

    No one can believe in you if as a matter of necessity you didn’t first believe in yourself. When you doubt yourself, your abilities, you make it hard for others to believe in you. Shyness like said earlier is one of the signs of low self-esteem. To overcome this,trust and believe in yourself more than anyone else. Don’t let the opinion of others be more important than your own opinion about yourself. Take you more seriously!

    9.) Smile More

    Going out with a hard face, as if your bread was taken from you obviously sends potential friends and helpers far away from you! There is no normal human being who has a resistance to smile! It is the most easy gift among men to give and yet the scarcely given gift. The gift of a smile could lighten up someone’s day and also your own day. Smile daily, smile every hour, smile every minute, smile every seconds. Just don’t stop smiling!

    10.) Meet New People More Often
    As difficult as that sounds to a shy person, it is a very effective means of improving your communication. The more you meet strangers/new people, the more you become less shy. Challenge yourself to meet at least a new person each day for the next 30 days and see how greatly you’ll have reduced your shyness.

    Now, next time you are in the public, don’t feel awkward, the same way you relate with your family members is how you should relate with strangers. They are no different, they are all men. You can’t keep losing important appointments, business deals or contracts all because of shyness.

  • Save Them

    They gaze at the stars
    Heart quavering, beating like drum beats
    Stream of tears pouring on the pale land
    Memories full of dreams
    Cut off, aborted
    O! Save them
    They have a tune to dance to

    Dwelling in Poverty’s compound
    Clad in tattered rags
    Undetected sickness breakthrough
    Waiting for neighbour’s
    So as to welcome a square meal
    In the middle of the day
    To feed the rumbling stomachs

    Difference in language is a barrier
    Lack of communication arises
    No higher place to go without the key
    Education the key to any door

    Gathered on the field
    Laying down their dreams
    Reflecting on their innocent eye balls
    Trapped in darkness of doubt
    But never lose hope
    All shall never remain the same
    There’s a reason their life started like this

    Help the living dead build their hope
    And make your promises come true
    Education you promised
    Where’s it?
    Has it vanished to an unknown land?
    Or has it been fed on by your greedy blood?

    The innocent children are dying
    Save them!
    Security you promised
    Not fulfilled, while fresh pepper is planted
    On the pale land
    SAVE THEM!
    SAVE THE PEOPLE!
    SAVE THEIR DREAM!!

  • May The World Sail Again


    In a world once peaceful
    Now overtaken by oppression
    A world without rule
    Where deceit reign and
    Might is right

    A world of hunger and suffering
    Of treachery and horror
    A world of adultery and infidelity
    Of gambling and perdition
    A world of vanity

    Of loneliness cold and harsh
    A world that never smile
    Of sinister laugh, grief and despair
    A world that invites but is never at home.
    Of plenty but scarcely offers


    A world without priorities
    When man strive to become beast
    A world where life has no value
    But death is hated yet revered
    A world that your are the nucleus

    Give us a new world
    With love filled with happiness
    Reassuring real for me, for me
    For today, for posterity
    A world yet only you can put
    The wind
    Back to its sail

  • Survival Strategies in the Face of Economic Recession in Nigeria

    Survival Strategies in the Face of Economic Recession in Nigeria

     

    The current global economic issues occasioned by the ravaging Corona Virus Disease which started in late 2019 (COVID-19), have generated a lot of concern among the inhabitants of the world. Many economies are now feeble, porous, and in dire crisis. Specifically, the current economic recession in Nigeria has significant negative implications on the citizens of the country generally. The contributing factor to this is that the nation has a mono-product economy I.e the economy concentrates only on the production of crude oil.

    Are there ways of surviving in this situation?

    The following are, therefore, valuable strategies that can be adopted to deal decisively with the challenges:

    1. Every Nigerian need to figure out what the future holds. They ought to work out a modality for achieving something substantial on the aspect of skill acquisition. They need to exploit areas of interest and skills to their advantage. Enough of being docile in the face of the present economic realities. Every Nigerian need to think through and come up with an action plan for the future to make headway.

    2. Surviving in these harsh economic conditions calls for being inventive, creative, and innovative because this is one of the major ways to weather the storms of the economic situations facing Nigeria. The youth, especially, need to be strategic in their thinking, methodical in their reasoning, and logical in their decision-making process.

    3. Another strategy is diligence.

    This is necessary at this juncture. Work should be done with all sense of responsibility. Taking responsibility or self-provision is key on this note. No Nigerian should expect anybody to provide for them, apart from the major dependants. Nigerians should be economically intelligent enough to fend for themselves as they should be engaged in one venture or the other.

    It is high time every Nigerian began to seek assistance in terms of information, counsel and direction on how to run their own business or trade from relevant individuals who have achieved success in that regard. Running private businesses is one of the key strategies in order to translate from scarcity to economic prosperity.

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