Do you think love is enough? Or we need other ingredients?
My name is Janet, but I prefer the sleek version, Jane. After graduating from the prestigious Harvard Business School, worked in my chosen field for more than three years, and seem to be having the time of my life. Mom reminded me that I am yet to “perfect” my life with marriage.
Not that I don’t wanna date or marry, but love, to me–both in a dating relationship or just friendship– should be mutual and each member should be committed and loyal to each other. The problem I had was the one-sided loyalty and commitment.
I once had a boyfriend who used and dumped me. Initially, I knew he didn’t love and obviously wasn’t loyal to me, but because I wanted to have a man to call “my man, ” I forced myself on him. He would cheat on me, steal from me, beat me, and still claim to love me. When he finished with me, he broke up with me and left the state.
From that moment, I concluded that in a relationship “the respect, love, feeling, loyalty, and care is meant to be two-sided.” Never, ever will I ignore the red flags that might signify that someone does not love me back.
I often find it unsettling when I see young people fall in love with people that do not even care about them. They tend to develop tingly feelings for the other person while that same person has little or no feelings for them. This usually leads to a height of emotional suffering and sometimes depression.
My coach once wrote something on his WhatsApp status. He wrote and I quote:
“Don’t love me, be loyal to me because loyalty births love and respect.”
Don’t conclude that someone loves you until they prove they are loyal to you, until they have proven to you that they love you for who and what you are. That doesn’t mean you should be something or someone bad.
Never overlook the importance of loyalty in a relationship. Loyalty is what makes your partner committed to the relationship and what makes you both keep the flame of your love burning.
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